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Dating and Courtship |
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Have you ever heard of courtship and wondered what it was or what it had to do with dating?
I hope this article will help you understand a little better. First lets take a look at dating. It is common in this country for teenagers to start dating at age sixteen. But why sixteen? Are we looking for someone to marry at that age? Of course not! So what is the purpose? When two people date, they often spend a lot of time together and try to involve the other one in as much as they can. They become very close to each other and then when one of them gets tired of the other, they just drop them and end the relationship. Now they are both miserable for several days. Dating often weakens your relationship with your parents and close friends. It can also lead to temptation. Why would it ever be tempting though? One reason is that you are alone a lot. What are our motives when we decide to date? Are we looking for our life's partner or just satisfying our desires of the moment? Now lets look at courtship. A lady never courts until she is ready to get married. If a man wants to court a lady, he will ask her father if it is okay that he courts his daughter. If he consents then the man will ask the lady if she wants to court with him. Now they get to know each other. They are never alone. A family member or friend is always with them. If there are too many things they disagree on or they know it won't work out, they stop courting immediately. Both families pray a lot, trying to decide if they are right for each other. The process of courtship will take a long time, as you are deciding if this is truly your mate. After the proposal however, engagement is short. It is not until you are engaged that you let your emotions start being drawn together. As you can tell, dating is not at all like courtship. I have decided to do courtship because I feel as if it is less heartbreaking and I would be better able to decide if this was really my future mate instead of possibly being distracted by my emotions. I hope this has helped you to know what courtship is better. If you would like to look into this matter further, I would recommend the book: I Kissed Dating Goodbye, by Joshua Harris. I have only read a few chapters so far and have found it to be very good. He does a much better job of explaining courtship than I can. May God bless you all. Amity Doss, 15 |
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